Guide for Conversations Across the Red-Blue Divide: This guide will help prepare you to speak about what is most important to you in ways that can be heard, and to hear others’ concerns and passions with new empathy and understanding—even and especially if you continue to disagree.
Beyond “them” and “us” in the church: The power of dialogue: Must register to viewCivility Tools
Unlikely friends unite to promote ‘Civility First’: Video from King5 on the formation of Civility First.
Whidbey Island neighbors spread civility: Video by King5. On Whidbey Island in Puget Sound, a wave of civility is washing through bringing communities together. KING 5’s Eric Wilkinson reports how kids are helping lead the way.
TV Spots from Values.com about Civility: Be inspired by watching Values.com’s latest videos!
UT’s Civility Message: A public service campaign video by the University of Tennessee on civility on campus.
How Our Friendship Survives Our Opposing Politics TED Talk: For Caitlin Quattromani and Lauran Arledge, two best friends who think very differently about politics, the outcome of the 2016 US presidential election could have resulted in hostility and disrespect. Hear about how they chose to engage in dialogue instead — and learn some simple tactics they’re using to maintain their bipartisan friendship.
Quotes on Civility
Speak not injurious words, neither in jest or earnest; scoff at none although they give occasion.
We must not be enemies, though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection.
The most practical kind of politics is the politics of decency.
The more you know about another person’s story, the less possible it is to see that person as your enemy.
-Parker J. Palmer
In America, we’ve got to learn how to disagree without demonizing each other.
-Pastor Rick Warren
They shouldn’t speak disrespectfully about anyone, but they should be peaceful, kind, and show complete courtesy toward everyone.
-The Common English Bible (Titus 3.2)
10 Rules for Civility in the Public Square
(FROM THE INSTITUTE FOR CIVILITY IN GOVERNMENT)
- Know yourself. You have to start with an awareness of your own beliefs, perceptions, and prescriptions.
- Listen with your strength. Listening is a high-energy exercise that requires your full attention and focus.
- Respect: differences are enriching. Understanding the different concepts people have about important topics helps us reexamine our own values.
- Listen with your mind. Engage your mind and wrestle with what you are hearing.
- Help comes from the most unexpected places. The reality is that you must deal tomorrow with those you disagree with today.
- Relationship is everything. It is the nature of human beings to listen more readily to those they know and trust.
- Listen with your heart. True listening requires you to risk taking opportunities to broaden your understanding and be open to change.
- Trust, trust, trust. Trust is earned over time, but lost in a heartbeat.
- One is powerful. One person who sees the need for change can make a difference.
- Numbers count. Organizing those who value civility increases the impact of their voices.